Ex sent girlfriend rules on how to behave – but then cheated on her

‘Toxic’ ex sent girlfriend 12 rules on how to behave on night out including how to dance, what to drink and what to wear – only to cheat on her himself

  • Zoe Scholefield, shared a screenshot of her ex-boyfriend’s demands and has more than 34,000 likes
  • She was told not to ‘dance like a s**g’ and how she ‘can’t go into anyone else’s room’
  • In the ex’s message he demanded Zoe to send pictures of her outfits so he could ‘approve’ and to text him ‘even when [he’s] asleep’
  • Do you know the ex-boyfriend? Email tips@dailymail.com 

By Phoebe Eckersley For Mailonline

Published: 07:41 EDT, 12 August 2019 | Updated: 23:13 EDT, 12 August 2019

A woman has revealed how her ‘toxic’ ex gave her a long list of things not to do on a night out – before cheating on her. 

Zoe Scholefield, believed to be from Wakefield, uploaded a picture of the text on Twitter where the unidentified man told her not to ‘dance like a s**g’ and ‘can’t go into anyone else’s room’.

He reeled off his requests after she asked him which bands, from the festival she was at, he would like to be sent videos of. 

The 12 commandments: Zoe Scholefield, posted a picture of a text from her ex about how she should behave or drink on a night out – after she kindly asked him what bands he would like her to film at a festival

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The exhaustive list demands Zoe to send him videos of her room before she goes to sleep and insists no one can stay there apart from her three closest friends.

She captioned the post on Friday: ‘Funny how my ex sent me stuff like this then has the audacity to cheat on me.’

Since she uploaded the screenshot, Zoe has received more than 34,000 likes and 3,000 retweets.     

In the ex-boyfriend’s rules, he demands Zoe sends a picture of what she is wearing before going out so he can ‘approve’ and must not ‘dance like a s**g’

People offered their support and aligned themselves with her on the Twitter post which has received more than 34,000 likes 

One Twitter user notices how the ex does not say Zoe should ‘enjoy’ and have fun on her nights out

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Lauren Hannah Pell tells Zoe to ‘go live your best life’ having got rid of her controlling ex. She says the girl should be free to ‘wear what you want and dance how and with who you want’

Singleton Jack Gracie is left baffled that he is still on the market and adds a bit of humour to the Twitter thread

Father-figure? The 12 rules have left some social media users wondering whether the ex is taking on too much of a parental role

Zoe’s ex-boyfriend’s 12 rules

 1) Don’t dance like a s**g like in Reflex

2) Don’t get too drunk.  

3) No boys and if anyone comes up to you and talks to you, you tell them you have a boyfriend.  

4) Look after your drink at all time to make sure no one puts owt in it.

The message then goes on to detail who she can and can’t “stick with” and

insists no one apart from her and her three pals can stay in the same room

as her. 

8) You let me know everything that happens and be ready to explain stories. 

9) Always send me photos of front and back of what you are wearing so I can approve and say whether or not I think you should wear it.

10) Even when I’m asleep text me to tell me things so I can see in the morning. 

11) If you find the time call me or ft [Face Time] me, but let me know in advance. 

12) If you can, [I] want a video of room before you sleep to prove no one else is there and you are off to sleep.

The man then launches into the a large list of things Zoe is allowed and

not allowed to do.

He said: 

1) Don’t dance like a s**g like in Reflex.   

2) Don’t get too drunk.   

3) No boys and if anyone comes up to you and talks to you, you tell them you have a boyfriend.   

4) Look after your drink at all time to make sure no one puts owt in it.”   

The message then goes on to detail who she can and can’t ‘stick with’ and insists no one apart from her and her three pals can stay in the same room as her.   

The ex continued:   

8) You let me know everything that happens and be ready to explain stories. 

9) Always send me photos of front and back of what you are wearing so I can approve and say whether or not I think you should wear it. 

10) Even when I’m asleep text me to tell me things so I can see in the morning. 

11) If you find the time call me or ft [Face Time] me, but let me know in advance. 

12) If you can, [I] want a video of room before you sleep to prove no one else is there and you are off to sleep.

 Zoe’s post has attracted hundreds of comments from shocked Twitter users – with Lee Hallas saying: ‘Your ex needs to attend a mental health hospital.’  

Mike P Williams said: ‘Wow your ex sounds like the most toxic, dangerous, sociopath alive.’     

@Pinky4367 commented: ‘It’s paranoia. He thinks you’re going to do what he

did to you, so he tries to control you. Used to have a mate that did that to his ex.’     

‘Reading between the lines I think he meant have a great time stay safe love you lots eh?’ Rangers Man replied with tongue-n-cheek to the post.  

Ashley Nivens said: ‘Don’t know who needs to hear this, but if your partner

lists even one of those things then you should show them the door. Control isn’t affection or love.’  

Soph1ekate said: ‘Did you have to let him know when you’d FaceTime so he could hide lassies then.’    

‘The fact he sent anything other than ‘enjoy it’ is a red flag’, HarrisonReed77 commented.

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